We're three months in and it is still strange to me that we've adopted. I know in my head that Samuel is adopted, and we are crazy in love with that kid, but it is still hard for me to believe that I am an adoptive parent.
From those I've talked to, and from my own personal experience, hearts know no difference between biological and adopted children. Of that I am confident.
Before adopting I knew little about the process or how I personally felt (other than that Ryan and I had said we'd like to adopt some day).
I'd like to share some information taken from the book: So You Want to Adopt...now what?
I picked this book up because it was on sale a few weeks after Samuel came along and it has good Biblical information about adoption and presents both the side of adoptive parents and birthmothers. It's a good place to start for those considering adoption or just want to learn more.
Here are some key points and facts from the book:
If we have a relationship with the Lord we have been adopted into the family of God. Therefore we are all adopted and adoption is the heart of God.
Today approximately 125,000 children are adopted in the U.S. every year. It is estimated that for every child available, there are 3 to 4 families trying to adopt that child.
- allows a child to live rather than be aborted
- enables families to be formed
- restores the dignity of the birthmother
Why do you want to adopt?
Consider what you want and expect through the adoption process?
This is one of the best quotes from the book:
"As you begin this journey, please keep one thought in mind: If God intends for you to have a child, you will. If He is calling you to adopt and has prepared your heart for this, He has a child just for you. Don't run ahead of what you know to be God's plan. You will get lost. If you believe adoption is God's will for you, you need only be obedient to what you believe He is telling you. The outcome of your obedience is His responsibility."
This week I'll share more about adoption steps, costs, and our own personal adoption experience. If you have questions please let me know!