Wednesday, January 21, 2009

My list

Samuel has been sick this week with a cold so sleep has been very limited. The last few nights we have been up many times with our little guy. I was thinking today about motherhood and what I would write to myself in the past knowing what I know now about motherhood (all 3 1/2 months of it!). Some things on my list I did, some I did not. Some I am grateful for, and others I regret that I didn't do a better job of.

Here is the list I came up with in my head:
Record life as it is currently. Take pictures of yourself, your spouse, where you live, where you work, who you hang out with. Write down where you go and what you do. Someday your kids will want to know how mom and dad spent their time and money.

Sleep in every chance you get. Every Saturday sleep until 9 or 10. Or wake up and just hang out in bed reading, cuddling, being warm and cozy. Sleep. Sleep. Sleep. Don't feel guilty. Just sleep :)

Travel. Every chance you get take trips. Long trips. Short trips. Weekend trips. Trips with girlfriends. Trips with your spouse. Trips with extended family. Go sightseeing. Go somewhere tropical. Save up if you need to - it's worth it. You'll love remembering all the places you went and the things you did.

So many of us wait for life to start before we'll do this....or do that. Don't waste a day. You might be waiting (waiting for a spouse, waiting for kids, waiting for a relationship, waiting for a new/different job). Don't just wait. Live. Serve. Give. Love. Make memories. Laugh. Relax. Grow. Meet people. Get involved. Learn a new hobby. These things will make your wait worthwhile.

Develop your friendships. Your time and energy is limited once kids come along so pour into your friends now. You'll then have solid, stable friends to rely on when your family grows. You won't have the same amount of time to put into the friendships later, and expectations will need to change, but those friends will be priceless and you'll need them in your new role as a mother.

Become an expert on your spouse. My mother-in-law says, "when you love someone you become an expert on them." Study your spouse. Go on dates. Treat him like a King. Go out for breakfast. Learn what he needs to feel loved and respected. Do whatever it takes to make your marriage strong. Develop habits that will carry you into the rest of your marriage and through the years with young kids.

Make personal development a goal. Figure out your strengths and your weaknesses. Challenge yourself (physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually). Seek God like you never have before. Determine your purpose, principles and priorities. Learn what your roles are in life and how to grow in each role. Study yourself and always push yourself to be better. Then go easy on yourself and trust your instinct. Read - for fun and self improvement. Take care of yourself, your body, your mind.

I might continue this list as more things come to mind....for now I thank God for what I know now and trust Him for all I'll learn in the years to come.


Anonymous said...

That is a really beautiful list, and I agree with everything on there. You are so insightful! :-D

Karissa said...

Good to see this list when I have a few weeks to still work on it. Thanks for sharing friend!

Beth said...

This is great! I agree, I didn't do as well as I should have with these before kids. We were married for almost 5 years b/f we had our daughter, and we have almost NO pictures of that time together!! Sad. (We did go on lots of trips though!)

Congratulations on your beautiful son!

avanbeck said...

Your writing truly imspires me to be a better person! I love reading your blog! I am so happy for you and Ryan! Little Samuel has the best parents!