Thursday, March 12, 2009

Words on waiting: Has God forgotten you?

My husband and I are waiting to hear about some potential changes to his job and future career. There is a lot happening - or that could be happening soon - and it's the 'not knowing' that is the hardest!

Not too long ago a friend e-mailed me and she said that she felt like God had forgotten her. Oh, do I know how she feels! For a long time I felt like God was silent to my pleas and had forgotten about my desires and dreams.

Have you been there? Are you there now? When everyone else gets the blessing you long for...

They get the job while you or your spouse wait for the call.

They get the new home while yours sits on the market waiting for a buyer.

They get a spouse while you journey into a new year of waiting for someone to share your heart, life and dreams with.

They get the baby while you long for a little one to fill your arms and your home.

They get a raise while you work long hours with little recognition.

Where is God?

Has He forgotten?

I love this quote by Chuck Swindoll: “God never forgets anything He promises. That’s right…never. God’s agenda continues to unfold right on schedule, even when there is not a shred of evidence that He remembers. Even when the most extreme events transpire and “life just doesn’t seem fair,” God is there, carrying out His providential plan exactly as He pre-arranged it. He keeps His word.”

Sometimes God's timing seems delayed. Sometimes it seems God has forgotten.

But rest assured dear friends - He has not forgotten. The same God who knit you together, is with you today. Waiting. Watching. Letting His plan unfold one day at a time. While we want to know the entire picture, we want to know the ending, that is not for us to know today.

If we knew the ending of our story, if we knew when our waiting season would conclude, or our suffering would be over, we wouldn't be forced to kneel before the throne and pour out our hearts to God. We wouldn't be forced to desire the Lord above all else.

While my miscarriages were very difficult to endure, it was two years of waiting with no conception that was, by far, the most difficult for me. I begged God. I wept. I claimed His Word and prayed it fervently. And yet, still we waited. I felt no peace about proceeding with adoption or fertility treatment. I only felt that I was being called to wait. For 24 grueling months we waited on the Lord for direction as to what our next steps should be.

Yet it was in those 24 months that I grew more than I ever have before. I was stretched. I was refined. I was challenged in my faith. I saw others around me get the dream that I longed for and it forced me to to go to the One who was the giver of dreams.

It would have been so easy to run ahead and pursue an end to my waiting...but then I would have missed out on the most incredible miracle I've ever experienced.

My favorite poem - one that has spoke to my heart in ways no other poem ever has - is called Wait. For years I clung to this poem, the truth it spoke and the hope it brought me. You can read the poem online here. The words strive to demonstrate the depth of God's heart and his longing for us to know him better.

I also have two copies of the Wait poem in book format and would love to give them to two readers who are currently in a waiting season of life. E-mail me or leave a comment if you'd like to be included in the drawing. I'll draw two names next week and mail you each a copy.

I do believe with all my heart the greatest of gifts is to truly know God. And there is no time better to do that than when we are waiting...


ajb said...


My name is do not know me and it was truly God who brought me to your blog. I was "googling" words about waiting on God and your blog came up on the search list. I was amazed to see the similarities between our waiting situations.

My husband and I have been trying to conceive for 2 years now and are still waiting. We do not feel God leading us to seek adoption or fertility treatments at this time (maybe that will change, maybe not)...we really feel like God will bless us with a child when it is our time....however that may be!

I love reading your posts and words of encouragement! I also love to hear about your blessing of joy that God gave you! I would love to be entered in the drawing for the waiting poem. I know you do not know me, but hopefully that is not a requirement for the drawing! :)

Please keep're such an inspiration!


Jeremiah 29:11 said...

Count me in! I would love to read this poem. :)

tiffany said...

I'm in too! Waiting has been a strong theme in my life recently. Jeremiah 29:11 sent me a CD with John Waller's "While I'm Waiting" on it, and I've listened to that song probably a hundred times in the last two weeks. If you haven't heard it, here's a link:

Stacey said...

Thanks again for your words of wisdom from the Lord, Stacy. You know I'm there right now - waiting, wondering if God has forgotten. After so many years and so many prayers it's hard to just rest and wait.

I always appreciate your words!

Kathryn said...

I appreciate your words, also. I also have been seeking on waiting on God, which i feel we are called to do. We have been trying to have a family for over 4 years now. We lost a pregnancy early 3-1/2 years ago.

We have been waiting. We are now at point of seeking a consult with a fertility specialist. I don't know if that is what God will have us ultimately do, but i don't feel we are being told not to.

My deep desire remains to walk the path God would have us take. Even if that means we remain childless.

Jaimee said...

I check in on your blog every once in a while and I know that God has been using it to speak to me. My husband and I have been in a season of waiting for our finances to improve for a long time and it is so hard to wait sometimes when we just want an answer. Thank you for your words of encouragement and for that wonderful poem-it is so fitting to where we are at right now!

Anonymous said...

Ooo...count me in for the drawing! It sounds like a fabulous resource. My husband and I are waiting on God's timing, and having our faith stretched in the process. I think it will be a good thing at the end, but in the midst it is frustrating.


This_Cross_I_Embrace said...

Lately I've been stopping by to read your posts as a prospective adoptive parent, and they always give me a lot of hope... but recently, there has been a glitch in our process, one that I'm not sure we will be able to get past, and I have all about lost every bit of hope that God is providing for us.

But, yet again, your post lifts me up. This post brought me to tears, because I have been RIGHT THERE in those emotions for a couple weeks now. Thank you, again, for putting your thoughts into words for others' to benefit from.

God Bless!

Anonymous said...

oh my goodness...look at all these women who are commenting on your blog that know you in blog world! Such a testament to who you are and who GOD is in your life. I am so blessed to call you friend.

Love you,

Niki said...

I'm currently in a painful loongggg season of waiting...not for a baby though but something else. The quesion i ask but probably will never find out whilst here in this life is why some people get it like that but for others it takes years of tears, heartache, doubt?
If the poem is still available although this is coming quite late my email address is:

Princess said...


My name is Josephine. My husband and I have been waiting on God for children for 3yrs now. I have wept endlessly, my faith and trust in God has been quite shaken. I have asked God questions without getting answers.

I am in my late 30s, and i know that fertility works with age. I know that God doesnt work with age, but its so frustrating waiting for what other people just get whenever they want it or even when they do not want it.

Thanks for your words of encouragement and inspiration, it consoles and refreshes my spirit.

I know there is an end to my grief, but He alone knows the time. So what can we do except continue waiting on Him; "the author and finisher of our fate".

God bless you richly.

Jennifer said...

This is an old blog. But I just came across it. I needed it for today. :)

Anonymous said...

God bless you for posting this blog!!!!

Your words were EXACTLY what I needed to hear (read) today :)

Thank you ever so kindly!

Anonymous said...

I have had career struggles for oer 6 years and am still not settled. My fiancee is on the same path. We have been trusting God for an end to this we even sacrificed all we had, giving away our material possession including land, in order for this trend to end but WE ARE STILL WAITING. Something has given me so much peace. That one day our pain and shame will end, even if it ends through death, we will for sure get our reward of eternal life.

Anonymous said...

Ok, so things worked out for you.

But there will always be sincere Christians who have prayed in every position and done all the right things but their dreams never come true.

What do we say to couples in their seventies who are still waiting for children?

Josephine Muyiwa-Afolabi said...

Hi' 'am Josephine and my husband and I have been waiting on God for children for over 5 years. As the days go by, I get more and more scared especially on the realization that my hubby is running close to 40 while I'm speedily approaching my mid-thirties. As it stands now, 'am at a cross road, haven done all that I know to do spiritually and medically and still, no single pregnancy in over 5 years of marriage. I know your post was broadcast a long while now but I wished you could still email me a copy of the book. I have gotten to my wits end and am highly discouraged. I will really appreciate you sedning me the book. Thank you!

Anonymous said...

This so touching to me.i was reading this and tears were flowing down my eyes.i know God used you to send this massage across to husband and i have be waiting for God to answer his name in our lives, although we are not waiting for a child but for something else.thank you so much and be bless in Jesus name amen. please can you email the book for email address is

Patrizia said...

Thank you so much for your words of encouragement. I wept a lot while reading your blog. I became a Christian when I was 23 and I am now 39 and still waiting for a husband. I would love to be married and have children. I spend a lot of time with the Lord, reading his Word and getting to know Him. I love Jesus and I want to do His will. I have lived a life of purity so I cannot think that the Lord is punishing me for some sins which I may have committed (I had to write this because this is what a "Christian friend" suggested). The waiting has been truly a desert experience, very painful at times but I believe everything will make sense one day. As I write, I have more tears in my eyes, but I just wanted to say thank you. God bless you. You have been a blessing to me, Patrizia

Anonymous said...

Thank you for your blog, waiting is so hard. my husband and I have been waiting upon God for 6 years now for a child. it is hard when everyone arounds you move on and you seem stuck on courtship. you are right' God is the giver of Life and dreams'.

Anonymous said...

My husband and I have been struggling with infertility for almost 11 years. We waited for more than 6 years before attempting any fertility treatments, then went through about 3 years of treatments, including 3 failed IVFs. I'd never been pregnant until this year. Our 3rd IVF ended in a "chemical pregnancy" which means that we were told that we were pregnant and then lost it 3 days later. We ran out of fertility insurance and emotional energy for medical intervention and decided to pursue adoption. We looked into our options, and then a few weeks later we were "pregnant" with high numbers!!! For the first time, in 16 years of marriage, we were pregnant and it did not result from medical intervention. At last, my miracle had happened!!! Since I had been through so much, I demanded that I see a doctor earlier than normal. Here's how it went down: Tuesday - home pregnancy test was positive!
Wednesday - blood test confirmed that the numbers were very high so it was not a chemical pregnancy!
Thursday - doctor ultrasound confirmed that the baby was growing in my tube
Friday - it was removed surgically

What!?!?!? Are you kidding me? The one time we get pregnant and it's in the wrong place?!?!?!? Amazingly, God gave me James 1:2 (the verse about counting it joy when we go through trials). This gave me peace for a few weeks. I think I was also living on the hope that I actually could get pregnant. If I was being honest with myself, I would even admit that I probably had some pride that I was handling this bad situation so well--that must mean that I am so close to God, right? Well, it has been 2 months and I am really struggling again. Struggling with my faith. Confused. Resentful all over again of all the ladies who get to have children. I have had to seek God for comfort, as well as reach out to close my Christian sisters for prayer.

What I believe to be true is that God wants me to seek HIM for HIM, rather than for what He can do for me. He knows I want babies, but He wants me to seek Him FIRST. I have realized that I, myself, cannot rid myself of this envy I have of others. Only He can. He wants me to trust Him fully. I'm trying. What I am trying to practice is saying "I trust you, Lord," even when I do not "feel" it.

I don't know if I will ever have babies. I don't know if he will lead us to adoption. I just have to rest in knowing that He loves me and has a good plan for my life. He can see the bigger picture. I know He has begun a good work in my life and he always completes his good works. It's tough. I am sure that I make it harder on myself because, for some reason, I have trouble just RESTING in his perfect love and peace.

Thank you for listening to my story. May God bless you all!

Jesus Christ is Lord!

Anonymous said...

Sorry, but one of you will have to explain why God needs all of us to suffer. If God is even REMOTELY the God of the Bible, He needs us to suffer like a dog needs a car. And, sorry, but suffering rarely brings out good; instead, it brings out anger, suicide, divorces, sadness, etc., etc. The "bigger picture" is ZERO excuse for the suffering picture. Everyone assumes growth is impossible without suffering, but this is not true. I've not grown from losing my sister and brother to accidents, I've not grown from being molested when I was twelve, I've not grown from being fired for not lying to clients, I've not grown from seeing the DAILY horridness of humanity (me included), I've not grown by ANY of this! If I stick you with a knife, you don't grown, you die, or at least are wounded. Pain is pain, not growth. And pain need not be needed for growth, unless God made it that way , and if He did, He erred. Please don't contort the meanings of words in order to justify God allowing our pain as something good. Pain is pain, and, for most of us, I'm betting little or nothing of good comes from it, and I KNOW that a lot of (life-long) bad comes from it. Pain is pain, and that's it.

Anonymous said...

I'm so sorry for all the pain you've suffered.

Anonymous said...

Anonymous said... I am weary and broken. I'm exhausted, battered and bruised. In my mid 50's I was fired, I was recognized as a model employee, one of the best at my job, yet here I am looking for a for a new job at my age. A Christian, or at least I was. my dad used to say ''If God be for you, who can be against you? but what if God is the one against you? (it's a little scarey when you realise that might be the truth). I used to feel as though I had a ace up my sleeve, that God was behind me... now I see the 'ace' was in fact The Joker.