Monday, August 24, 2009

My thoughts on Waiting Well

This is an e-mail sent to me in December 2007 by my mother-in-law. I often talked about Waiting Well with her and encouraging others to do so. She sent me this e-mail and it so touched my heart. I came across it the other day. I am not posting it as a way to say "look at how well I waited," but rather to encourage all of you who are in a waiting season of life to strive to wait well and make the most of your time of waiting...

My Dear Stacy,

I see you waiting across the room, everyone is congratulating your friend who just announced that she is pregnant. I see you smile and busy yourself.

I see you hold the newborns and lovingly coo and rock them.

I see you proudly show off photos of your best friend’s baby girl.

I see the delight in your face as you meet your husband’s cousin’s baby for the first time

I heard that you helped your friend make her birth announcements.

I know you traveled miles to visit your new nephew and congratulate your brother and his wife…many times!

I know you are a great support to a friend who had to give up her 2 foster children.

I know you spent a weekend with a friend and her new baby to help her out.

I know you have cried along side others who have lost their babies

I know you have written notes and cards

I know you have shared on the ‘blog’ to moms who benefited from your encouragement…even when you needed the encouragement.

I know you have stood by the grave of a new born and cried as if it was your own.

I know you have felt pain, anger, lost, confusion, disappointment and sadness.

I know…that I don’t know…

But I know you are waiting…

and I know you are ‘Waiting Well’.

You couldn’t be doing all these things that I know about or have seen in you if you weren’t ‘waiting well.’ You are “numbering your days aright, you are gaining a heart of wisdom.”

Don’t discount that you are also ‘living’ as you are waiting and because of that you are making an impact on others. You are not avoiding the pain or ignoring the loss, you are acknowledging the fact that God is in control every time you reach out and help a new mom. Every time you put your pain aside and rejoice with another’s happiness, you are loving one another as Christ loves you.

You are living and I am so proud of you. You are present in the moment…waiting, hurting, wishing, but you are present and that is what life is all about. Being present in the moment and living for others. You are of great worth.

I am waiting, too. I am waiting to see what God has in mind for both you and Ryan. Your maturity and love for one another is so rare these days. I can only think that even God is waiting to see just how He will best make the most of you and Ryan…a couple that loves each other and is committed to walking a journey that is so painful.

I love you,


Aunt Sharon said...

Wow! You have a precious mother-in-law and she is right. I love you both!

JellyBelly said...

you are so lucky to have such a wonderful mother-in-law.

it definitely is a paradigm shift. i'm not infertile, i'm waiting.

and i'm going to try my best to wait well.

G & H said...

What a beautiful letter...a wonderful MOther in law and a precious reminder....

Leah said...

What a wonderful mother-in-law you have, and how thoughtful of her to send you a letter.

Waiting IS difficult. I don't know anyone who enjoys waiting, yet it is all something we must do at some point in our lives.

Your mother-in-law touched on a great point, and that is to live while we wait.

TAE said...

What a wonderful letter. Your mother in law loves you and what she said is true. When my daughter in law, Molly was pregnant; you were there for her; you supported her even though you had lost your babies through miscarriages. Your message teaches us to wait well and to wait on HIM. thank you for your words, Stacy. Love Terri

Christine Marie said...

What a beautiful post. I just linked it in my most recent blog post...I was so moved by it. Thank you for sharing it!!

Anonymous said...

Lovely thinking as a person and above all a precious blessing from a mother-in-law to her daughter-in-law.
I loved it... and I too got a mother-in-law like her... :)

Niki said...

Even though my comment is coming late, years late I'm amazed at how God has used this letter to speak to me Himself today.
I'm waiting on God for a husband. I have been waiting for a long time though some may argue that I'm still quite young. I have always desired marriage and its hard seeing God answer the prayers of friends and those around by blessing them with marriage whilst my own prayer goes unanswered.
I've rejoiced with others as they enter into motherhood and marriage. More recently I feel so undervalued and unappreciated by an engaged friend of mine whom I have helped in regards to the wedding and marriage preparations. I've encouraged her despite her seemingly having it good and me needing my own encouragement. Sometimes I wonder why I even bother, its not like its promised me a husband at the end of it. It hurt me that this friend didn't even acknowledge my birthday a few weeks ago. This letter written by your mother-in-law was God's way of telling me that He see's all and cares.