Monday, September 28, 2009

Sympathy Card

I bought a sympathy card last week. Usually the sympathy cards I buy are for people who have lost grandparents. And while that can be very sad, a life filled with love and memories is one to celebrate.

This was not that kind of sympathy card.

It is for young parents who lost their first baby.

A baby who never got to take its first breath outside of the womb.

The grandparents go to our church and this was to be their first grandchild.

It is heartbreaking.

I'm standing in the aisle at Target, with my sweet baby girl sleeping in the cart, picking out a sympathy card because a baby died.

I wanted to cry. I wanted to scream. I wanted to beg God not to let these things happen.

This young couple has the baby room all decorated. The showers had been held. The gear had been purchased. They were just a few weeks away from his arrival.

I don't know the details of what happened but I do know that on Saturday they held a memorial service for his life and I can't imagine the pain and sadness they are facing each day.

How does one communicate in a sympathy card how deeply I feel for their loss? How truly sorry I am that they have to journey through this difficult experience? Words seem so inadequate.

Oh God, only you can heal hearts. Only you can bind the brokenhearted. Come quickly and minister to our friends in their time of need. Their burden is so heavy. May your peace and presence overwhelm them today.


Amy said...

We lost our daughter, our first child and the first grandchild in the family, to full term stillbirth in January. No matter what the card says, know that the couple will draw strength knowing that they are in your thoughts and that you are praying for them. Not having been the "sympathy card" type before January, I've changed my habits after being lifted up by so many this year.

Charnè said...

o my heart is hurting for this couple. I know you will be of great support to them during this sad and difficult time