Thursday, August 5, 2010

Being real

How honest are you?

Actually, let me rephrase that.

How authentic are you?

In real life. Blog life. Personal life. Public life.

My husband is a very open and authentic person. He is R E A L. He has taught me a lot about being open, honest and authentic when it comes to our life and our marriage.

We also tend to be pretty positive people, so sometimes we need to work on the balance between optimism and positivity and authenticity.

When people ask, "How are you doing?" how do you respond? For me it depends on if they are asking the question to really know how I'm doing or if it is just an intro to the conversation.

For instance, "Hi, how are ya?" seems like a greeting to me. But when someone asks, "How are you doing today?" and it seems like they really want to know, I try to answer honestly.

That's tough in this season of life, because some days I am not doing ok. Some days are really discouraging as we wait on the Lord. Some days are downright depressing. Some days are full of fear. Some days Ryan and I yell and holler and scream at one another about money, jobs, expectations, bills, our future, me working, him working, on and on.

There is a part of me that doesn't want to share that. But if I'm not honest and authentic on this blog, then I certainly won't be in real life. And since Ryan and I value authenticity in our marriage, we must remain true to that - even in this season of life.

If you don't like real, I'm not going to apologize. There are plenty of blogs available for you to read about being happy and fulfilled according to the world's standards.

My life - and this blog - is about striving to be real in the midst of the heartache and trials we face. I'm committed to being honest and authentic through it all. I hope to remain positive. But I will be real.

4 comments:

Sew said...

I'm all about REAL! ;)

Little JoAnn said...

Love this entry!

Stacey said...

Love it. Honesty and authenticity are the top qualities of my favorite people... and blogs! Thanks for being real and genuine YOU.

Abigail said...

Real is good!