Sunday, January 16, 2011

Community - part one

Last week a very good friend of mine, Jeri, went into the hospital due to some health issues. We offered to care for her daughter Chloe, who is just a few days older than Samuel.

We had the joy and privilege of having Chloe at our house Thursday-Saturday. She and Samuel seem like twins - same age, same size, same skin, eye and hair coloring. It was so fun having her stay with us and both kids really enjoyed having another playmate.

While mentioning to people that we had another kiddo staying with us, a few people responded with something along the lines of, "Wow, that's so nice of you."

I told Ryan that it was irritating to me to hear people respond with such surprise that we were caring for a friend's child while she was in the hospital.

I guess I was annoyed because it isn't even an option that I wouldn't care for a friend's child if I had the ability to do so and they were in need.

And one of the things I love most about my husband, is that I knew that I didn't even need to check with him before committing to care for Chloe. I did ask him if it would be ok for her to stay with us, but before I even asked, I knew he would say yes. Because that's what we want our marriage and our family to be about.

I don't mean to say that in an arrogant or prideful way. I say it in a purposeful way. Ryan and I have made it a priority to be open to caring for others to the best of our ability. Isn't that what community is for? Isn't that what doing life together is all about? Caring for one another as they have needs? Giving to others who are in need?

People have been so generous to us during our season of need (it sucks to admit we are in a season of need). I am able to give of my time and talent more than my finances these days and I love doing so.

I shared my irritation with a couple people and explained that I don't have time for - and to be honest don't even want - friendships in my life with people who wouldn't care for my children if I were unexpectedly admitted to the hospital.

Life is too short. My time is too precious. My relationships are too valuable. I'm not going to waste them on people who don't care to live life like we read about in Acts 2:
The Fellowship of the Believers
 42 They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. 43 Everyone was filled with awe at the many wonders and signs performed by the apostles. 44 All the believers were together and had everything in common. 45 They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need. 46 Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, 47 praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.

I don't mean to say I don't have people like that in my life. Of course I do. But my go-to people, my deep friendships, are people who I know would drop to their knees or drop by my house, in a heartbeat, if I was in true need.

I think that's the way God designed us to live. We see the example in Acts 2. Now we have the opportunity to live it out.

I'll post Community - part two tomorrow.

For now, isn't this the most precious picture of Samuel and Chloe?

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

true true true. Sam is so handsome and Chloe gets more and more beautiful each day. She is so sweet!

Mir

WoRds/WoNDer said...

I couldn't agree more. It's always kind of a shock to me when others (especially Christians) are surprised by what should be common hospitality, kindness, & sharing of resources.

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Angie said...

Very good post!! I completely agree... but I had never even thought about it before. WOW, food for thought! Sam & Chloe are adorable! Very cool for her that she was able to spend that time with your kiddos too!