Tuesday, February 1, 2011

I don't know what to say

Last week I shared some really hard news about a friend of mine.

Today I called my friend.

I prayed before I called. I asked God to give me the words because I don't know what to say to a friend whose husband has died. I have friends who have lost parents and grandparents...but this is my first friend to lose a spouse.

And it's tough.

I wanted her to answer, but if she did I didn't know what I would say.

But I called anyway because I know there are many people who aren't calling...simply because they don't know what to say.

In my hard times I've learned one thing: the most hurtful of all things was when people didn't acknowledge my pain. The people who avoided me and the ones who acted like I wasn't going through a heart-wrenching struggle...that's what hurt the most.

So I called.

I fumbled my way through a voicemail message...trying to communicate my grief, sadness, love and hugs over the phone.

I didn't know what to say. But I called anyway. Because that's what you do for a friend.

Dear God, hold my friend tightly. Minister to her as only you can. Fill her with a deep peace and sense of your presence. Surround her with people to love her, comfort her and grieve with her in these dark, dark days. Teach me how to be a friend to someone who has suffered a devastating loss. Give me words to say. Help me to be creative in loving her from afar. And most of all Jesus, begin to heal the broken pieces of her heart.

1 comment:

heartincharge said...

I hope the thoughtfulness and love behind your voicemail will mean even more to your friends than the words.

i gave you an award.