Monday, April 11, 2011

Birthday affirmations

In March we celebrated Ryan's birthday. The morning of his birthday he had breakfast with three friends as he does almost every Thursday morning. They talk about every topic three guys could potentially discuss when meeting for breakfast every week. My husband thoroughly enjoys these times with his friends.

The day of his birthday they celebrated Ryan with birthday affirmations. They spent their breakfast telling Ryan what they respected most about him, what they appreciated about him and what his friendship meant to them.

A week later we celebrated my friend's 30th birthday. We had a precious time of telling my girlfriend what we most loved about our friendship with her. There were some tears. And there was some laughter. And it was a touching time for all of us to share in the joy of celebrating a friend.

Last week at my mom's group we had a time of affirmation because five of the nine women had birthdays within a couple weeks of each other. Moms affirmed what they saw in the other moms and why they were thankful to be in the group with these women.

Today at work we had a staff lunch and I was, unexpectedly, the focus of a time of birthday affirmations. A handful of people told me the attributes and qualities they saw and appreciated in me. They told me how they saw God working in my life. They made me feel loved, cared for and valued on my birthday.

As I was thinking about this on my way home from work, I decided that every single birthday should include a time of affirmation. Every person, parent, grandparent, friend, sibling, co-worker, and spouse should hear from others things that they may not hear the rest of the year.

Presents wrapped are oh-so-fun. Delicious sweets are a must. Celebrations are memorable. Affirmations are needed.

Now, to be honest, I dislike this time very much. I don't care to be in the spotlight and have all eyes on me. But I need to hear these words - they are good for my heart.

And others need me to say the words that I believe to be true about them.

Birthday affirmations. Try them and see if it doesn't change your birthday celebrations.

1 comment:

cybil said...

Beautiful idea! Really an expression of love - and for sure very encouraging!!!
Happy belated birthday to you!
May your new year be filled with God's wonderful surpises, may he make ways where there are non so far, may he surprise you with his goodness and gentleness!
Many thanks for your beautiful blog!
Greetings from Geneva/Switzerland,