Thursday, February 2, 2012

Bitter or better?

"The difference between bitter and better is I.”
―Jennifer Rothschild

A couple weeks ago I received an email update from some friends of ours. They had been asking for prayer for the past year about a possible transfer out of state or that God would provide a new job. 12 months later...they are not moving and God has provided a wonderful new job for their family.

I should have been happy for them.

Because I know that my blessings and their blessings are not dependent on one another.

But I wasn't.

I wasn't happy at all.

I was bitter. Full of resentment. And angry that God had answered their prayer for employment and not ours.

I was surprised at the emotion I felt reading their email. I wasn't fully aware of the anger and bitterness and resentment that was in my heart. 

But these emotions of the heart work their way in slowly...quietly...powerfully. They take hold, they dig deep and before you know it, a bitter root has grown.

I love Jennifer's quote: "The difference between bitter and better is I."

I have the choice.

I can choose bitterness or I can choose to be better as a result of the road I'm walking. 

Every day presents us with choices and we get to choose how to respond. Once we realize we are dealing with bitterness, we can choose to let it grow or we can choose to better ourselves and work through it.

Sometimes we think we are victims of life. Sometimes we think we are victims of other people's choices. 

It doesn't matter.

The only person standing in the way of you dealing with your bitterness

Bitterness from a past relationship or marriage...or no relationship.
Bitterness from the loss of a baby...or no baby.
Bitterness from the loss of a job.
Bitterness from the loss of a home, business, or investment.

Take it to the Lord my friends. Pour out your grief, anger, jealousy, resentment, bitterness. God knows your heart...He created your get it out there and get right with Him.

This is hard stuff people. But this is life. And we have to make the choice, once again, to go through the hard stuff. There is no way around it. You can talk about bitterness and read about bitterness and listen to messages about bitterness and talk to friends about bitterness. But what you and I need to do is talk to Gd about our bitterness and follow the commands given to us in Scripture about how to deal with our bitterness.

"Choose to let the difficulties in life
make you better not bitter." - Unknown

**To see how I have worked through my bitterness in the past, see these posts:
A root revelation
The bondage of bitterness
Choose Wisely
Fight for Freedom

Consider reading Enemies of the Heart by Andy Stanley. Fantastic book!


cybil said...

And additionaly, I think it's important to keep your hopes up and to expect that God will do miracles for you!
be encouraged,

Chrissie said...

I identify with your thoughts and struggles so much. Every time I would hear a pregnancy announcement I would be so bitter that it had happened to someone else. Almost like there was a pot of babies somewhere and if they got one it meant or chances decreased. I know rationally that that it not how our faithful and sovereign God works, but my humanity had a struggle to really believe it sometimes. And then we got our miracle, and I am wrestling with 'survivor guilt' a little bit. I did nothing to deserve this blessing when others have struggled longer and harder. Feeling comforted and blessed that His word is constant and available to help us through all of lifes messes! Blessings today x