Monday, February 27, 2012

What I know

Last week I sent an email to a friend who is struggling. She's struggling to believe truth over lies, struggling to find purpose in her pain and struggling to trust in a season of unknowns. This is hard stuff and there's no way out...she has to face it head on and walk through it one agonizing step at a time. I told her I didn't know how to help and I didn't know what to do, but that there were a few things I did know. I thought some of you, who are walking through your own tough times, might benefit from these words:

"There is a lot I don’t know friend. I don’t know how God is going to use this to bring Him glory. I don’t know how you are going to find healing. I don’t know the pain and the heartache that is to come.

But there are some things that I know and I want to share them with you.

Here’s what I know about you and about our God:
…You are not asked or expected to carry this burden. This is not your burden to shoulder. God did not design you to carry this heavy load. He wants you to give the hurt, pain, loss, sadness, grief, and agony to Him and let Him carry the burden for you. Every day He asks you to hand it over to Him.

…You are capable of great love. So love your family. Love your husband. Love your kids. Don’t try to change them. Love them. Let God do the work in their hearts and lead them on the path He has for them – in His timing. So go about your days, your business, loving your husband and kids and let God do the work that needs to be done.

…These days, these tough times, are not about you having more faith or working harder to be a better you or striving to get this all figured out. In fact, these days are not really about you at all. They are about a Big God who loves you just as you are and is asking you to come rest in Him. Be His daughter. Be still and know that He is God. He is I am.

…In Christ you are a new creation and there is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. You can choose to believe lies or choose to believe God’s truth. Every day, every hour you have to make that choice. Satan is fighting for control of your mind and feeding you lies every single minute. The Word of God is living and active, sharper than a double-edge sword. Use the Word as a weapon. Fight with it. Pick up your armor daily – it is your only defense.

…That said, I realize what you are walking through is absolutely emotionally exhausting and picking up your armor and fighting for your mind is no easy task. But you do not walk alone. Call upon God’s strength and power and presence to walk through this with you. Claim His power. You have Christ living in you and that is so powerful. God can empower you when you live in total dependence on Him.

…When you are down on yourself it’s because you are focusing on self. Don’t focus on self. Focus on God. Fix your eyes on Him – the author and perfector of our faith. He is there with his hands holding your sweet, beautiful face saying, “Look at me...look at me...hear my words...this is my battle to fight and my burden to bear. You need only be still. Rest in me and my promises. I promise to be faithful to you.”

…You cannot control anyone else’s actions or thoughts or attitude or choices. You can only control your own. You cannot control your circumstances, but you can control your perspective. What is your perspective? God is your rock, He is your portion, He is your strength. Make that your perspective every day.

…Trusting God is hard, but if you pick a specific promise from God to claim and trust, it becomes a bit easier. May I suggest a promise? It comes from Isaiah 41:10….So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. Claim that promise, claim victory in Him.

…God longs to hear from you. He wants you to pour out your heart to Him. When others can’t handle your heart, your emotions, your tears…God can. When no one else understands, God does. He wants you to immerse yourself in His presence all day so He can minister to heart and be the healing balm to your soul. Talk to Him. Cry to Him. Beg Him. Listen to Him. Petition Him.

…God’s mercies are new every day. Don’t worry about tomorrow. Try not to think about tomorrow. God has given you today – ask for your daily bread for today and claim His mercies for today. He has not given you tomorrow’s mercies…only todays.

…God’s promises number in the thousands. There is a new promise for every single day. And choosing to meditate on truth, and claiming, trusting and resting in His promises daily, will keep you focused on Him. Here’s another promise for you: Psalm 46:1-2:
God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in trouble. Therefore we will not fear…

My dear friend - I love you, I weep with you, and I pray for you. I claim God’s promises with you. I believe in God’s power to bring restoration. And most of all, I am asking and trusting and believing that He will make beauty from these ashes."


whenwilliconceive said...

I absolutely love your blog. I read it every time there is a new update and it helps me out so much! You are definitely living a "purpose driven life" and have helped so many. I have shared your blog with friends of mine who are also dealing with infertility. Thank you for your words of wisdom. I frequently go back and re-read posts when I need uplifting. Thank you! I hope you realize how amazing of a person you are and how much you are helping so many!

Melissa L Lohindun said...

Thank you so much.

Niki said...

Stacey, your friend is so blessed to have you as a friend.

This post really encouraged me as I have been stuggling with similar emotions as your friend.